Finding out after all these years

I just discovered from my daughter why her aunt (M) doesn’t like her new sister-in-law.

While my daughter was in Greece, M kept telling her that she really wanted to talk to me, but because of the language barrier, she was not able to do so. My daughter told her that whatever she wanted to tell me, she could tell her, and she would then relay it to me.

Not being able to help herself, M started telling my daughter that when me and her had went to the states for a visit,  that woman was brought to our apartment and was there for days. M went on to say that she would knock on our apartment door and tell her brother to tell that woman to leave because we were coming home. This probably went on for the duration of her stay. I still don’t know how long that was.

Questions began flooding my mind.  When did this actually happen?  Could he have already known her? Did he have something going on with her during the time he knew we would be returning back to Greece?

What we always believed

Me and my daughter always believed the story her dad told me years ago. At that time, we had spoke on the phone briefly regarding our daughter but then the conversation switched over to him like it usually does. He told me he had met someone. He had sold his car to a woman and she had a friend who he was interested in.  I told him I was happy for him and from the sound of it, it seemed serious. Then when he spoke of moving to the other side of the country to be with her and leave his business behind, I knew it was serious. This is the same woman he just married and the one who M is referring to.

Letting go

Even though I have these thoughts running through my mind, I can’t help but wonder. I knew that something would surface during the time my daughter was back in Greece, but I had no idea this would be it.

I know I made the right decision leaving.

I know that things would have never changed.

I know that I am better off.

But that still doesn’t change the fact that I miss the life I left behind even after all these years.

6 thoughts on “Finding out after all these years

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  1. Thanks for your comment Natalie.

    This was definitely a trip that both me and my daughter was not expecting. I actually took you up on your suggestion to allow my daughter to read my blog prior to going so that she would be well informed if in the event she was confronted by her aunt and father as to why we left years ago.

    Well, that was the least of my worries, as you have already read in my previous posts.

    I agree with you, her aunt should have never told her anything about what her father had been up to during our trip back to the states. That information should have been kept to herself. After all these years, it should no longer matter. I was just sorry to hear the words from my daughter and trying to figure our what she thought about what she had been told.

    One thing I do know is that my daughter came out of this summer experience more mature, while obtaining a better understanding of her father and her Greek family.

  2. This whole trip had to be a lot for you and your daughter to take in. I hope you both are doing well and settling back in your routine. I don’t think it was appropriate for the Aunt to tell your daughter that. Part of me thinks well it is always good to clear the air then part of me is like your daughter already knows her father was a crappy husband and father it is just more disappointment and hurt feelings when she was already hurt and disappointed. I would make sure that him being the way he is and how he treated you and her is no reflection on either of you it is all him.

  3. I get it. There are still things I want to know too and it’s hard to let it go. We will get through it somehow ❤️

  4. Thank you. I didn’t realize that the feelings would be this strong on wanting to know exactly when it was that this occurred. I guess I will never know.

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