I am an middle-aged single parent of a teenage daughter who keeps me grounded and focused. I originally started this blog over eleven years ago during a time when Infidelity hit my life while living as an Expat in Greece. I found that writing through the pain really helped me in the healing process, not to mention, what I was writing back then really helped quite a few people who were going through the same thing as well.
Don’t let your past dictate who you are, but let it be part of who you will become.
People say leave the past behind and more forward. It is one thing to leave the past in past but quite another when you have to live with it every day. Those who have been effected by infidelity and then became single parents after the fact, know exactly what I am talking about and are the only ones who can fully understand. For those of you who are interested on how it all began and the reason for starting this blog in the first place, click on the link below. It is a short version but is described more in detail in the early posts of this blog.
Being a single mom
It has been difficult over the years pulling my daughter from the only life she has ever known, away from the only family she has ever had and bringing her half way around the world with me back to my home country. But it didn’t stop there. If the truth be known, I have a major flaw being a mom. I have been dragging my daughter around over the last few years because I cannot seem to stay in one place very long. I wouldn’t say I am running away from anything but I wouldn’t say I am running to anything either. It is just an itch I get that tells me its time to go.
We move around so much which causes my daughter to repeatedly ask me when are we moving again. One of my biggest fears is that she too will not be able to stay in one place too long when she becomes an adult with a family of her own. She already talks about leaving when she is 18 to travel the world. I wouldn’t put it past her either as she has the boarders open to her of 27 other countries.
I guess if there is anything good that has come out of this it would be my daughter has experienced different places and different people. I believe she has become a well rounded individual. It has been quite an experience for both of us but staying in one place is something I really need to work on.
I love writing and have done so for years. Although, I have stepped back from my writing over the last few years, it is now time to return. I feel I have so much to say but no one to listen. More often then not, I spend a lot of time looking back on my life to reflect on where I have been and all I have been through. It’s amazing how far I have come. I find that when the memories of my life come flooding back, that’s the time when I need to put it all down in writing.
On very quiet days and when I need time for myself, I go fishing to the lake. The calmness seems to help clear my mind and the challenge of it all is not so critical. Most of my life, I have had to be near water, so it makes me feel at home. Once there, I do not want to leave. Perhaps I should be living on the water. Hmmm, something to think about.
When I need a good mind challenge, I got out and shoot pool. Once a week, I got out to a pool tournament. I love the challenge of the game while working on my strategy according to the opponent I am playing. What I have learned about the game is no matter how good you are, the game is never the same and there are bad days, just as there are good.
I use this blog to connect with others, share my thoughts and experiences. If you would like to contact me, please do so. I will answer all and welcome any comments or topics you would like to discuss.