He has the power now

He never replied to my email and I was wondering what was going on. Does he just not want her to go and if not, why doesn’t he just say so. DD had already informed him that she wanted to spend time with her aunt and grandfather. So it’s not like he has to be involved at all. According to her, he did get a little upset when she told him this and I believe it comes from his selfishness. I believe it’s a case of “I don’t want to spend time with her, but I don’t want anyone else to either”.

DD had a Skype call with her father today. I had informed her that when there was a break in the conversation that I would like to speak to him. DD has been questioning me for days asking if she will still be able to go, so I had to find out first-hand what was up.

When I got on to speak with him through Skype, he was very aggressive.  It brought back the memory of the way he was and how I could never get a word in edgewise. The negativity, the aggressiveness, and the huge head he had obtained now that he is working for the Greek Parliament was very clear.  The conversation went like this:

“Why haven’t you answered my email?” I ask.

With a stern look on his face, he replied, “Because I have been busy working.  When is she planning on coming to Greece?”

Knowing I had already told him when she was planning on going to Greece via email, I reply, “In June for a month.”

Looking irritated and bothered by the amount of time she will stay, he says, “I cannot get off work for an entire month! I am a supervisor and I have people to supervise!” 

From that point on, he kept on talking with his aggressive tone and I could not get a word in at all. It was now a once sided conversation with himself that soon became all about him. When I saw the look in his eyes and the aggressive nature in which he was talking, it felt like he still had a lot of anger towards me. It’s not my fault that he didn’t keep a good relationship with his daughter all these years .  I told him ten years ago that it would be up to him to decided what type of relationship he will have with her.  In my opinion, no matter how far away a father lives, he can still have a close relationship with his daughter. If the tables were turned, I know I would have a close relationship with her, even if she was living on the other side of the world.

I could tell by the cold look in his face and the arrogant tone in his voice that he may have other plans. He now works with the Greek Government and if he wanted to, he could keep DD and there is nothing I can do about it. Greece is her home country and it doesn’t matter that she has dual citizenship. She was born there and if he wanted to keep her there, he could just to spite me.  My Government would never help me if  it came down to it. I found that out the hard way many years ago when I lived overseas.

So that leaves me with the question; Do I let her go or do I keep her here knowing what could happen? She has been planning this trip for two years now and even though I am her mother, I feel I cannot stand in her way.  She has been informed of what could happen if she did go to Greece, but even so, she is still wanting to take that risk.