OK its not really a secret. Why would I tell my 13 year old daughter that I was married before I married her father. I don’t know why I told her. It just came out .
We were in a conversation about her father. She was talking about her father’s girlfriend and wanted to know if I thought her father would remarry but she quickly followed that up with why did we leave Greece in the first place. She has been wondering this over the last few months and has been trying to get an answer out of me.
At that point, I told her when she is older and could understand, I will tell her why we left Greece. After all, at her tender age she would never understand that infidelity was the major factor as to why we left. So I went with her previous question and told her that I doubted her father would remarry because he was married before me and if he remarried this would be his third marriage. Once I realized what I had just said, I followed that up with so was I.
The look on her face immediately turned into disappointment. Her everything soon became nothing. She looked at me as though I were a stranger – someone she had just met. And everything she once thought I was was snatched away from her in a single moment. When I saw the look in her eyes, I knew that she saw me in a different light.
She quickly said she was tired and had to go to bed. If you knew my daughter at all, you would know that on a Saturday night, she never turns in this early. I said good night as she walked away.
I can only imagine what is going through her mind right now. How this will effect her and what the result will be.
What would you have done faced with the same questions?