A legal matter upon leaving

Knowing that it’s over, I contacted our Attorney this morning. She was not in, so I requested to speak to someone else to have a question answered. The Attorney I spoke with is the main Attorney there, whose name represents this particular law firm. I explained that I was ready to walk with my daughter and that H did not want to sign the mutual agreement that our Attorney had already drawn up. He told me to calm down and really think this though. Taking my daughter out of the country is not wise. There could be kidnapping charges filed and I will lose her all together. At that point, I was given a little bit of hope. Hope that possibly I could leave with my daughter at a later time, that is, after appearing in court. I was told that since me and H cannot come to an agreement of any kind that I would have to take this matter to the Judge for a final decision. I just have to prove that it is in the best interest of our daughter that she is better off living in the states with me. I know this will be quite difficult since this is the only life she has ever known. I will still have a chance here, and I’m taking it! Whatever the outcome will be, at least I can say I tried it the legal way first.

Next week our Attorney will be contacting me to give me a heads up on what needs to be done in order to proceed. So all I can do over the weekend is just wait.

H did not think I was serious last night when I told him it was over. He was taking things very lightly today. So much in fact, that he was acting as though I never said anything at all. In order to let him know how serious I was, I went ahead and told him that I contacted the Attorney’s office and what was said. He grew very upset and stormed out of the room.

Later in the evening, when husband was in the office, he turned to me and said, “Are you pushing me?”.

“Pushing you to do what?” I ask

“Pushing me to show my feelings,” he said

“No. If I haven’t been able to get you to show me your feelings over the last seven months, what makes me think I can do so now. I’m not pushing you. I don’t want anything from you.”

If there is anything I have learned in the past seven months is that asking for something which is not there to give, has gotten me nowhere. I highly doubt that this is considered pushing and if it is, I know it won’t get him to do anything he is not ready to do.

Just as I was leaving the office, H told him that our daughter does not want to live in the states. She would like to go for a visit but not to live there. Sadly, I know this to be true. Even though she is almost five, this is the only life she has ever known. I know that children bounce back very easily and she will adjust after some time. But still, I can’t help but wonder what kind of impact it will have on her life.