My daughter requested a Skype call with her father. He kept her waiting for over two hours because he said he was busy. First he said he was talking to his boss (even though he doesn’t work on weekends). Then he told her he had a troll on their social media. What does that have to do with why he wouldn’t get on to talk to her?
As time passed, my daughter came to me and said she had been waiting for over two hours and felt that he just didn’t really want to chat with her. From the look on her face, I could tell that what he had told her the day before had really gotten to her. Two hours later she gave up and texted him saying she didn’t feel like talking on Skype.
He replied, “I make half of what your mom makes a month. Yet I am paying half of your ticket to Greece and all of your expenses during your stay. And you know what? I ain’t complaining because I haven’t seen you face to face in five years. I work 60 hours a week yet I am paying three times more taxes than your mom. I am paying $7.50 a gallon on gas because that’s how much it costs here to drive around. It will cost 150 Euros to go back and forth to take you to your aunt’s, but because I haven’t seen you up close for five years, I do not complain. So..when I say I am busy, I probably truly am. So, you know what? I don’t feel like it either!”
After my daughter received the above, she apologized to him not knowing what she was apologizing for.
He claims he will be paying for the half the ticket but that is yet to be seen. As far as him covering her expenses while she is there is all summer, she will not be with him except for one week the entire summer.
He then said: “I have a certain level of animosity toward your mom. She has deprived me of your childhood and your presence in general.”
She then replied, “It’s not about the physical distance that separates us. It’s about what you do to overcome that distance, and you aren’t doing much.”
I don’t think I could have said it better myself. In this day and age of technology, one can communicate in various ways. Through emails, texts, Skype, Facebook and many others areas via the internet. It doesn’t matter what part of the world you live in. There is no excuse as to why a parent could not keep in contact with their children. If they don’t, its because they don’t have any interest in doing so.
Its been nine years since I left him and at that time, my daughter was five. I kept communication with him regarding how she was doing and after that first year, he no longer wanted to know. Even after she went back for a visit when she was ten, I told him it was up to him to determine what type of relationship he wanted with his daughter for the future. Unfortunately, that relationship never flourished.